On February 13, I was thinking about conflict.
Why are there problems and heartbreak in life?
What can I learn from experiencing conflict?
It occurred to me that through conflict, change will happen.
Only by identifying that there is a problem can a solution be found.
Only through experiencing hurt can healing happen.
Change occurs through conflict.
When life is speeding along, happy-go-lucky, there is no change. No need for change. Yet when a problem (read: speed bump in life happens) life slows down and my attention is focused on looking for a solution.
It's a realization that a change needs to happen.
I've joked for years that "Change...is good." There was a time in my life when I was surrounded by people who were being buried alive in conflict and some were in positions of authority to make changes.
Sometimes I adapted well to change...sometimes I struggled with change.
Many times I wanted to have a vote whether the change was a good solution to the conflict.
I realized that my frustration would boil over when others made changes that affected me, but I had no say in the matter.
Then my sarcasm gene would explode and I'd say, "Change...is good." (Read: Not!)
1 Corinthians 10:23-24 says, "Everything is permissable --but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissable but not everything is constructive. Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others."
I accept change more easily when I can determine it is beneficial and constructive not just for the one person in authority...but beneficial and constructive for the group as a whole.
I know you can't make all of the people happy/satisfied all of the time.
But after a situation arises, I try not to react in a thoughtless, knee-jerk, half-cocked way.
Think the conflict through, surround myself with wise people (not "yes" people).
Pray hard. Because if I'm listening with my heart, God will provide His wisdom.
Because when I work through conflict, I learn from it and grow stronger in my faith.
Then I can take action in a calm manner which will lead to a beneficial/constructive solution.
I am working on this in my professional and personal life.
I am a work in progress.
How do you see conflict at work in your life? Is it beneficial?